What is Abuse?
Domestic Violence is defined as a pattern of abusive behaviours by one partner against another in an intimate relationship such as a past or present marriage, dating, family, or cohabitation. Domestic Violence has many forms including physical aggression or assault (hitting, kicking, biting, pushing, pinching, restraining, slapping, strangling. throwing objects) or threats thereof; sexual abuse; emotional abuse; controlling or domineering; intimidation; stalking; harassment; passive/covert abuse (neglect); and financial abuse.
Domestic violence is not a crime of passion and it is not a private matter. It is about exercising power and control over another human being. It affects people of all ages, rich and poor, rural and urban, female and male, from every cultural and educational background.
Are you being abused?
- Are you frightened by your partner's temper?
- Are you afraid to disagree with your partner?
- Does your partner put you down, but then tell you that they love you?
- Does your partner treat you roughly - push, pinch, slap, grab, or hit you?
- Does your partner call you several times a night or show up to make sure you are where you say you are?
- Does your partner blame you for how they feel or act?
- Does your partner threaten to hurt your pet or children if you don't comply with their wishes?
- Has your partner made you financially dependent on them?
- Have you become isolated from family and friends?
If you have experienced any of the above, you may be in an abusive relationship.
What can I do?
We will provide education and support to individuals who are or have been involved in abusive relationships. We will provide education about the types of abuse, the cycle of violence, characteristics of batterers , warning signs and patterns of abuse . Other topics include: co-dependency, power and control issues, children’s issues, family history and why individuals stay in abusive relationships. It is intended to help individuals live with whatever choices they make. We will provide information on getting help, developing a safety plan and some legal issues.
If you are abused by a partner or spouse, you should know that it is wrong. Help is available. In an emergency, call the police. To speak with a domestic violence support worker, call 1-866-347-2480